Solid Black men have always preferred Black women with natural beauty—hair, bodies, face, everything. We love all shades, hair textures, and body types. I believe that the problem is that too many of our women have allowed the media to promote colorism and influence their beauty standards. They look at the wrong Black men to … Read more
There’s a crop of Black men who insist on believing that the Bible allows polygyny, which means men can have multiple wives simultaneously. They mostly point to King David and his son Solomon and say, “See, look. Told you.” If we want to create marriages that are designed by scripture, we have to look at … Read more
If you’ve heard of the red pill guys, passport bros, the manosphere, or Kevin Samuels, then you are at least familiar with the Black manosphere. These men appear to have noble values because they give a lot of facts, especially about how modern feminism has harmed men: These stats show that men can be victims, … Read more
Most of us have never seen a healthy depiction of sex in marriage. In movies, it’s always fornication or recreation. In music, it’s passion-driven lust, especially if you like 90s R&B. Or we use our pre-marriage sex experiences as a reference point, even though those relationships are no where near the intensity of marriage. Then, we … Read more
I remember having a conversation about sex with a Christian friend who was a leader in her church. I was shocked when she said: Here’s How Bad Sex in Marriage Violates Scripture First of all, Paul tells us as married people not to deny each other sex. If scripture is our final authority, that means … Read more
I am convinced that the primary reason why Black Christians end up in high-conflict marriages or in divorce court is that we are terrible at the selection process. The qualities we look for are totally different from what scripture tells us to look for. Source: Davian Chester, instagram.com/real_toons/ The people we become as husbands and … Read more
Divorce is one of those topics that scripture is clear on, yet many Christians decide to do something else. Like 2+2 equals 4, but some of us just prefer 5. 79% of Black Americans identify as Christians, yet we’ve had a higher divorce rate than any other ethnic group since the 1970s. Our ancestors’ first … Read more
Raise your hand if you realize this whole climb the ladder, working mom thing isn’t, well, working. Too many Black Christian women are overscheduled and overweight. We’re behind on the bills and burned out. We give the first fruits to our jobs and also get fired. When we finally do spend time with our husbands … Read more
We have lost sight of how important marriage is to God and to our people. For one: We’re not getting married as much as 50 years ago, and it was already bad then. In 1970, 35.6% of Black men and 27.7% of Black women were never married. By 2020, 51.4% of Black men and 47.5% of … Read more