Break the Cycle Book Series

A wise woman builds her home, but a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands. — Proverbs 14:1 NLT

Break the Cycle (Book 1): Patterns Black Women Must Unlearn from Our Single Mothers

Kelly and Kadesha and the babies

If you were raised by a single mother, you have probably inherited some dysfunctional beliefs and behaviors. This mentality is causing chaos in your life. If you want to break that cycle, this book is for you.

My husband, Kelly, and I got married in 2011 and have navigated several marriage challenges that stem directly from our families’ pattern of broken households. We’re still on this journey, but we’ve learned a lot along the way. I want to share that with you.

Whether you’re 20-something and you’re wondering about marriage or you’re 40-something and you’ve made so many mistakes that you’re already a grandma, it’s never too late to align your life to God’s standards.

My goal in this book is to use the Word of God and our history as Black Americans to correct the most common beliefs and behaviors that led you, your mom, or even your grandmother to become a single mother.

If we don’t correct these beliefs, we’re signing up for another century of dysfunctional broken homes. If we do correct these beliefs, more Black American children will be raised in stable, Christ-following homes where everybody has the same last name.

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This is the first in a series of mini-books for Black Americans who want to break the cycle of single motherhood—starting with themselves. Order your copy on Amazon for faster shipping and cheaper pricing. If you don’t have an Amazon account, please order your copy directly here.

Frequently Asked Questions

Who is Kadesha Smith?

Kadesha Smith is a Christian, a wife and a mother who has recovered from feminism, Christian skepticism, and daddy issues. She is a business owner and a lay Bible study teacher.

She is a former Peace Corps volunteer and has an undergraduate degree in journalism from Florida A&M University and a Master of Public Health from Tufts University School of Medicine.

She lives with her husband and their two high-energy little ones near Chicago.

Um…Is Her Mom Mad About This Book?

So, when my mother read the manuscript, I didn’t know what she’d say.

But as she read it, she started to reveal more things about her mother and her family that I never knew.

She has become one of the primary promoters of this book. I’m pretty sure she drove the first 100 sales of the book, but I have even more appreciation for all she went through as a single mom.

How Can Churches Use This Book?

Too many Black churches have several generations of single mothers sitting in their pews, adding to the collection plate and donating time—yet they are not addressing the spiritual needs of these women and their children.

They are not coaching young girls on how to avoid this trap. They are not offering biblical parenting guidance to the mothers. They are so scared of offending that they aren’t compelling the single mothers to repent, correct their behavior, and train the next generation differently. Churches are actually ignoring or coddling this problem.

This book can help pastors understand the historical backdrop that has led the majority of Black children to be born to broken homes. It also gives scriptural guidance to equip them to be change agents and boldly address this issue in their congregations.

What About The Men? No Woman Becomes A Single Mother Alone

True. Men absolutely need to be held accountable. I address this directly in the book.